Curious Scholar

Good day for you today. For me as well. Right now I'm at my college, but the lecturer seems not to lecture.
Just getting curious (again).
Have you ever heard the word of stigma?
If not, then, stigma is some kind of labelling (negative one) people tend to put on you. Usually known as society stigma.

What I'm trying to pull is, our society might not be as noble as we think.

As the above picture shows, stigma follows some step stairs. At first we will gives subjective stereotype towards the subject, goes to an absolute division from us and the subject, it will worse when the subject loses it's social status, then further steps, total discrimination where from the discrimination born labelling.
From stigma, can turn into mental-illness for both the victim and the culprit.
A qualitative study was conducted and published in the British Journal of Psychiatry in 2004 about mental-illness caused by stigma. You can read it by clicking here.
As for the culprit, an abnormal fondness of bullying might appear and is considered to be a mental-illness.

My curiosity takes place here and there. If our society already chirping in the social media about not giving false-judgement, already conducted research about stigma and labelling, and doesn't like to be labelled themselves, why in the real world this kind of stigma still fly around freely and is treated as something common? Do we really enjoy disturbing one's mental health? Or are we hoping that no-one will put stigma on us while we put one on others? That is basically illogical. The universe reverts back to us, anything that we gives to it. In a very simple way, if you put stigma on a person, another people will give you stigma. Doesn't have to be right now or tomorrow. Maybe a year later, ten years later, or twelve years later. But, surely that is the fruit of your long-long actions.

So, to fulfill my curiosity, answer me my friend, why do you still give raw stigma on other people?

Hello. Bonjour. Konnichiwa. or Whatever you may say in your languages.

Just a bit of curiosity of mine. An Instagram post from my Senior tickled me. She posted it a few days ago or two weeks ago I forgot.

This is all about mindset. Well, in decision theory and general systems theory, a mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notations held by one or more people or groups of people that is so established that it creates a powerful incentive within these people or groups to continue to adopt or accept prior behaviors, choices, or tools (source from Wikipedia).

I live in Asia. In Indonesia. Where us, Z generations are in our productive ages, but still highly influenced by X and Y generations. I used to think everything relates to time base like when we do Mathematic problems as x is the function of y. So as life equals with success and it is the function of time. Just like the above picture. I don't know how people think overseas, but I think it's just the same. People tend to say that we ought to graduate by 20 at least. Get married by 25 at least. Get our dream job by 30 at least. and so on. and so on.

My family, luckily, isn't one to demand their children to use this success based time function. But, not with the society. I have different thoughts about living. I am not the kind of woman who says that her biggest dream is to get married and have cute children. But when I say that, society almost always judge that I am egoistic. Well, isn't it confusing. It is my life which I plan. But why am I egoistic.

Again. This is about mindset. Society minds already being set by the culture, by the habits, that everything should be ruled by the time. By culture. So when somebody starts to think outside the box, think not by the society rule but by their own rule, society tends to sneer. If we think about it logically, it is not wrong at all. What is so wrong if a man doesn't get his dream job by 30? Maybe he's still struggling. And it is not a sin. What is so wrong if a woman doesn't get married by 25? It is her choice. Nation's law doesn't forbid it. Religion doesn't say that she commits a sin.

Just a curiosity of mine. In this modern era. Where we already shouts human rights, we still bind ourselves, bind our rights to culture. As long as that doesn't broke nation and religion law, that is not wrong. Thus, just a curiosity of mine, why society sneer? Let them be. It doesn't hurt you.

Hello. That's the first word we say if we meet somebody on our way to school or work. That's the first word Siri says to us when we open our MacBook. That's the first coding word we learn in Java.
And so, before any curiosity typed, I want our first post to be Hello.

I am an ordinary college student. In Asia. I study about LNG (Liquefied Natural Gas) and have certain interest in art, astronomy, and philosophy. I love public speaking and writing fiction stories (Hey if you can read Indonesian, you may read my stories at Wattpad. Check Kong An Li in Wattpad).

Well, this blog contains my pure curiosity and my own thoughts so no offense here dear. If you are interested to ask, you may ask straight ahead in the comment box below. Thanks!